Finding Your Purpose In Life: What are You “Craving?”

Finding Your Purpose In Life: What are You “Craving?”

IMG_0038We are all placed on this earth of a reason..but what is that reason? Some people struggle with what their reason is and what is their purpose in life.  Along the way to discovery, we may sometimes compare our lives to other people and think we are suppose to be where they are, living how they’re living, and doing what they’re are doing. As hard of a pill it may seem to swallow, we are not all meant to go down the same path. We have to discover our own destiny. Our own story. Our own purpose. So we pack up our motivation, strength and determination in a backpack and travel on  down the road. Destination – finding your purpose. But once, we think we reached our destination, how do we know that this where we are suppose to be? How do figure our whether this truly is our purpose in life? It’s a sense of fulfillment. The same fullness and sanctification you feel after a big Thanksgiving dinner. The fullness and satisfaction you feel after haven’t ate all day, and finally getting a full meal. That’s when we are have found our purpose in life. The same way we crave for food to nourish our bodies it’s the same way we crave a purpose to nourish our life. So how do you find out what you are “craving”?

There is a difference between “what you like to do” and “what your good at”.We live in a big world with some many opportunities available so we have to go through the process of elimination of what we like to do and what we are good at. Sometimes when we like to do something, we don’t necessarily see it as something we see ourselves doing for the rest of our lives. Usually something we like to do is a hobby or “side hustle” as some would say. When you are good at something, it’s a natural born gift that has been instilled in you. It’s what make you, you. Just like we have foods we like to eat and we have foods we love to eat.

Once you found a sense of direction of the path you would like to go on, it’s time to explore. Just like food, once you see that your good at cooking something, you want to find different recipes for that specific kind of food. The same as finding our purpose. Once we have a sense of what we want to do with our lives, it’s time to branch out and explore. If you have a personality quality about you that your good at such a being a good listener or great at giving advice, take into consideration of being a counselor or research different mentoring programs working with the youth. If you have a gift of arts and crafts, consider branding yourself and opening up your own business and selling the items you make. 

The road is not easy and you may loose yourself in the process of finding your purpose so don’t loose sight of what you know you are meant to do. You may get discouraged and feel like it’s not worth it but through every struggle comes glory. You may not like all the food you eat, but just because you had one bad dish, doesn’t mean you going to stop eating.

Bon Appetite!

You will look at a soda can differently! [Quick Post]

You will look at a soda can differently! [Quick Post]

So I thought this was neat! I was looking at a video on Facebook called “10 things we are eating wrong” recently. I showed this to my mother and she asked me, “Do you know what the tabs on soda cans are for?” I said, “um, to open it?” she then grab a soda can, turned the tab around and then inserted a straw! She said it’s too keep the straw in place! I felt so dumb to not even think of that. I don’t know if I am late or not or of this is real reason for the tabs being there but I thought it was pretty neat idea. So for those people who don’t like to drink directly from a can (like me) there’s no more bobbing and weaving to get to the straw, just turn the tab around and it stays in place!

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Is Love Lost?: This Generation

Is Love Lost?: This Generation

As I was cleaning up my room, I found this article I wrote about 7 years ago and I thought it would be nice to share it with you all.

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We all know love has various different meanings there is no definite definition of it. Some may say it’s when you feel strongly about another person, or someone you can’t live without. Why are there so many different ways to describe  love? It all comes down to ones background and the way one is brought up. If one comes from a broken home, love would be hard for them to understand because it has never been shown. For example, back in the grandma and grandpa days, love was understood.  Love was something that was unconditional and a strong bond between two people that become one – something everlasting. Love was respect. And if you kept all those things in mind, you’ll easily find a husband or a wife. But like they say, times change. Love is now misconstructed with lust. Today, young boys are looking for something to do for that night whether than looking for a wife. Young girls are loosing their self respect instead of gaining it. Love today is taken a game rather than a true emotion. Also, the number of teenage pregnancy is dramatically increasing. There are more “baby daddy’s” and “baby mommas” than there are fiancés, wives or husbands. Then again, look at the society we live in. Men get praised for having more than one sexual female partner while women get slapped with the label “hoe”. Also, the music today plays a role in this generation and the way love is interpreted. There is more, “get you in bed” songs than the feel good fall in love songs. There is no Marvin Gaye’s,  Luther Vandross or Earth, Wind and Fire. Once again, the misconstruction of love and lust. So what else is a young brother growing up is suppose to understand what the true meaning of love is? Most importantly, respect plays a big role in love. Young girls today are trying to find love in all the wrong places, mainly in the bedroom. Respect is earn by not laying on your back, but standing on your won two feet and if a guy doesn’t  respect you, he’s not going to love you. All of this had dawned on me when I was getting my hair done and at the beauty salon and my hairdresser, who’s in her late 60’s, told me about how she felt bad for us young girls today because it would be hard for one to find a husband. Now why would she say such a thing? Because in her days love was understood, women were respected and people took love as true emotion, whether than a game. So in our generation, is love really lost? Now don’t get me wrong, we are not in a “love recession” but the morals and values in our generation is declining and needs to be restored. It’s sad, but true and its reality and its happening. And it’s only up to the young girls and boys in our generation today to step up and break the cycle for generations to come.

Has times really changed?

“Is Marriage A Trend?”: Spoken Word by EccentricJay

“Is Marriage A Trend?”: Spoken Word by EccentricJay

“TRENDING”

I feel..I feel deep to fulfill this need,

You see I have this dead line im trying to beat
At 26 im baby and man free
I laugh because I feel the need to obtain this popular accessory

I mean being wifey and a mother seems to be the trending thing to me

On a deserted island with less than 10 people to join me
The last of a dieing breed it seems to me

The funny thing is I was supposed to be apart of this trending thing you see
Growing up I was destined to be the wild child, or atleast that what was spoke to me

Church folks are the best paparrazi

What happened to Love thy neighbor as thy self??

Scripture right?

Yea that’s what I thought

But the sad thing is some of them are so green on the inside

Such an ugly sickness

But be careful what you speak to others

I was destined to be the “wild’ one
I should had atleast 3 kids by now
But the ones who spoke the words are reaping the words of their tounge

You see this trending thing that’s going on in our society
The whole baby mama, wifey epidemic can only do one thing
And that’s miss me.

– EccentricJay

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

Our Valentines Day Photo Contest winners are Johnathan and Dominque Carter-Brintley  from Orlando, FL.! I’ve came across a few photos of couples on Valentines Day, but the photo of this couple is too adorable to past up. It shows what love should be – fun! As a couple, it’s important to have fun with each other and just enjoy every moment together to have memories to look back on. This contest is not the only congrats this couple is due – they are expecting their first child! and she truly is glowing!

So congrats to the Brintley’s for winning the first Be.U Valentines Day Photo Contest as well as your little bundle of joy on the way!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!

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Be. U will be having a Valentines Day Photo Contest! We all know that our social media will be overloaded with so many Valentines Day pictures. Couples will be posting their date night pictures, ladies will show off their outfits and gifts. So, I want to choose the BEST Valentines Day picture and the winning picture will be posted on the blog. I am looking for the most creative Valentines Day photo. For those who are single, don’t worry, you’re not excluded – you can post a photo as well! Here’s what you gotta do:

First follow the blog on instagram, @be_u_blog and tag your photo and use the hashtag #valentinesdaycontest2014. Also, please re-frame from posting anything inappropriate such as nudity, nobody wants to see that. (just being honest) with that being said, have fun!

Be.U is Back! [2014]

Be.U is Back! [2014]

Welcome!

After months, days and years of procrastination and dragging my feet, Be.U is back! I want to first and foremost thank those who motivated me to keep my blog going and just overall the overwhelming positive feedback and support. Since it has been so long and those who may have been wondering, “What happen?” I guess it’s only right to at least keep a long story short and explain the reason for the long hiatus…

When I first started Be.U, I really didn’t have a set direction of what I wanted to blog about, the audience I wanted to target, the overall message and purpose. All I knew was that I wanted to blog and be heard. By me not knowing what I wanted to do, I decided to reach out to my friends and to those who visited my page on what exactly they would like to see on my blog. I received so many different ideas that it was overwhelming and by me not knowing exactly what I wanted to do to begin with, I ended up trying to please everybody and just got completely lost and my mind went blank. So, I decided to pull the plug.

During my hiatus, I had a lot of time to think about my blog and not only that, some self reflection. I just couldn’t live with the fact that I started something, and didn’t finish it. I couldn’t just walk away from something that I created and not give it the chance to flourish and grow into a success. It’s nerve racking to live with “what-if” so why not go for it? Oh yea, that’s right I went through a moment that most people have gone through once in their life – self doubt. I doubted myself from the start of the blog all the way till the end. For those who do that, it’s natural. But I realized it will hold you back from a lot of things. If you doubt your dreams, how will expect anyone else to believe in them?

With that being said, IAM BACK. What you will see on the new Be.U is people doing their thing. Such as those who are doing something positive, striving for success and achieve their goals or dreams. There will be music, fashion and writing that will be showcased, your views as well as my views on various topics, tips, advice and things that people go through on the daily basis. The main thing is here is positivity; the world is already negative enough, so let’s highlight the positive. So, I hope you all enjoy, thank you and don’t forget to always Be.U!

–       Q. T’Lena

Are Video Games Just “Games” To Kids?

Are Video Games Just “Games” To Kids?

children-video-gameWhenever tragic events happens that involves violence from our youth, the media automatically links the influence of the act to video games. The tragic mass shooting that occurred in Aurora, Colorado on July 20, 2012,  where a gunman opened fire in a crowed movie theater at a midnight showing of The Dark Knight, the gunman told officials, “He felt like he was in a video game” The statement that the gunman made, I could see why it ignited the fuel for the media to run with and make a correlation with videos games to the event that just occurred. I understood then, but witnessing it for myself, I completely understand now.

I was in the grocery store one day, waiting to be checked out and a mother and her daughter stood in front of me in line.Her daughter looked to be at least 4 or 5 years old, very hyper and energetic as any child would be, running up and down and jumping everywhere. The mother and the cashier started a conversation on how cute the little girl was and how she was so hyper. “I don’t know where she gets this from!” said the mother. Both the mother and the cashier shared a friendly laugh. Then the little girl ran up to her mother and said she wanted play a video game when she gets home. I didn’t quite catch what video game she said, but the guy that was bagging her groceries understood, and sparked up a conversation with the mother about the game. The mother told the guy that it’s a video game her daughter and her older brother play together and the guy told the mother how he just purchased the game himself. He then went on and explained on how quite scary and violent it is. The mother then turned to her daughter and said, “Do you like scary stuff?”, the little girl nodded her head “Yes” and said, “I like guns”. The mother and the cashier looked at each and the mother laughed shyly and told her daughter, “Don’t say that”. The little girl then proceeded to form her hand into a gun and pointed at her mother and said, “Bang, bang Mommy!” and the mother grabbed her hand and said “Don’t do that!” and looked and the cashier and shyly laughed again. The little girl said again, “I like guns!” and the second time she said it louder. The only thing  the cashier could do was laugh, so could I, but in shocked way. The mother and her daughter left the store and it was my turn to check out. The cashier didn’t know how to make out of it. As it was my turn to check out, the cashier and the guy that was bagging her groceries knew I was aware of what just occurred. All three of us looked dumb founded and didn’t know whether to laugh or just brush it off. All the guy could say was, “That was…. interesting”.

Just like any movie or television show, all video games have ratings. “E” stands for everyone 6 years and older, “T” is for teenagers 13 years or older, “MA” is for mature audiences 17 years or older and “A” for adults only 18 years and older. So the question is, should there be stricter polices on the purchase of video games? Or should parents take more precautions on what their children are exposed to? Some children cannot always grasp the concept of reality and what is fantasy, so as they get older, their not just games to them anymore. They want to experience and try to see what it would feel like, this would cause them to act upon such violent crimes amongst others. Therefore, in order to stop the violence, we have to stop exposing them to such.

Set The Mood Right This Valentines Day!

Set The Mood Right This Valentines Day!

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With Valentines Day just days away, some may be in a panic in trying to plan the perfect day or finding the right gift for your sweetheart, that say’s “I love you”. Here are a couple of things that may help you make this day perfect for you and your valentine:

Tight Budget:

for your man: It’s true what they say, “A way to a mans heart is through his stomach”. A man loves a home cooked meal, especially from his girlfriend/wife. Find out what his favorite meal(s) are and start cooking! This to a man is more valuable than a gift. If you aren’t married, this well defiantly score you a lot of points. He will appreciate the time, effort and love you put into make him a great dinner.

for your girl: Of course, jewelry and nice things will always win a girl’s heart, but it’s the little things that matters the most. Therefore, make a basket filled up of her favorite things (If you’re not that crafty, find a female friend, relative or your mother to help you out). This will show that you actually listen and pay attention to the things she says.

Music:

Music can either make the mood right or totally wrong! here are some good songs that can set the mood just right.

for your man:

  1. Aaliyah- At Your Best
  2. Beyoncé- 1+1
  3. Faith Evans- Never Gonna Let You go
  4. Xscape – Am I Dreamin’
  5. Alicia Keys- That’s When I Knew
  6. Nivea- Complicated
  7. Destiny Child- Cater 2 U
  8. SWV- Rain
  9. Beyoncé- Dangerously In Love
  10. Lauren Hill- Sweetest Thing

for your girl:

  1. Trey Songz – One Love
  2. Joe-I Wanna Know
  3. 112- Cupid
  4. Avant- Read Your Mind
  5. Jamie Foxx- Heaven
  6. Babyface – Everytime I Close My Eyes
  7. Miguel- Adorn
  8. Tyrese- Lately
  9. Robin Thicke- Lost Without You
  10. Dru Hill – Beauty

Chocolates:

It’s not Valentines Day without chocolate! This best kind of chocolate to get is Godiva, Ghirardelli or Russell Stoven. Godiva is a very rich and smooth chocolate that literally melts in your mouth. Ghirardelli is also very rich and their chocolate’s have delicious varieties in their chocolate fillings. Godiva may run on the expensive side, but it’s worth the money. If don’t want to spend too much on chocolate, Hersey’s always does the trick.

Places To Go:

If you’re a more outgoing and love the outdoors, try a nice boat ride, miniature golf or a nice walk around the park. If you’re a more laid back couple, just do a simple dinner and a movie. If you don’t feel like going out, get creative and set up the bedroom or the living room nice to give it a nice restaurant feel. This way, it’s a bit more intimate and private.

Sugar, Spice and Everything Nice!:

Of course, it’s not Valentines Day without the perfect nightcap. Guys, if you really want to win your lady over, run a nice bubble bath for her after dinner or feel free to join her. Set nice scented candles are the tub and all around the bathroom. Ladies, our men work hard and a nice massage would be perfect for him. Also, one thing to always remember, wrap it up!

Happy Valentines Day from Be.U!

Women Aren’t Complicated, Just Misunderstood…

Women Aren’t Complicated, Just Misunderstood…

Complicated (adj.) 1. consisting of parts intricately combined 2. difficult to analyze or explain.

Sentence : ” Some men think that  most women are complicated.”

As human beings, we’re broken down into different species – men and women. Within each species, there are things that are instilled within each to differentiate them into their own. This is called nature. Our nature affects how we interact others, how we handle situations, and the way we live on the day-to-day basics. It also affects our mental, physical and emotional state. It is within a women’s nature to nurture, care deeply for others and to be more in tune with their emotions. For men, it is within their nature to be strong, tough and to be able to provide for the ones whom he cares for. Unlike women, men are not always likely to respond to situations solely off of their emotions because it’s not within their nature  to do so, so their initial response is to react mentally. In a relationship between these two species, this is where conflict may occur.

A man will see a woman as “complicated” due to his nature to not fully comprehend the complexity of a women and her nature. Therefore, the main contribution to the confusion is a man lacking the understanding on how to respond. What makes up the complexity of a woman is her ability of knowing things, which is called a woman’s intuition. This intuition is like a sixth sense of some sort and gives women the ability to sense if something is right or wrong. This intuition could also be a  sense of protection because woman are more vulnerable to be hurt or fooled because of their loving and caring nature. Since some men may not understand this, some women may be seen as “crazy” in a mans perspective, when in reality, it’s a woman’s source of protection.  Another reason why some men may also feel that women are complicated, is the fact that some women cannot express want they really want from a man. Generally speaking, every woman wants a sense of security, love, trust and happiness from a man. The main question a man needs to ask himself is, “Can I provide this for her?” If so, her desires are not hard to be met.

Overall, the key to understanding women and removing the complications that may come with being in a relationship, lays in a mans hands. A man has to have the willingness and urge for wanting to gain understanding. He also has to have an open mind with wanting to expand his knowledge on a woman’s world and her views of the world from her mental, physical and emotional stand point. For a man who doesn’t take this approach, may find himself confused and to believe that the woman has the issue. In some cases, this may be true. However, this will lead a man to think that women are complicated, when in actually, just misunderstood.