Finding Your Purpose In Life: What are You “Craving?”

Finding Your Purpose In Life: What are You “Craving?”

IMG_0038We are all placed on this earth of a reason..but what is that reason? Some people struggle with what their reason is and what is their purpose in life.  Along the way to discovery, we may sometimes compare our lives to other people and think we are suppose to be where they are, living how they’re living, and doing what they’re are doing. As hard of a pill it may seem to swallow, we are not all meant to go down the same path. We have to discover our own destiny. Our own story. Our own purpose. So we pack up our motivation, strength and determination in a backpack and travel on  down the road. Destination – finding your purpose. But once, we think we reached our destination, how do we know that this where we are suppose to be? How do figure our whether this truly is our purpose in life? It’s a sense of fulfillment. The same fullness and sanctification you feel after a big Thanksgiving dinner. The fullness and satisfaction you feel after haven’t ate all day, and finally getting a full meal. That’s when we are have found our purpose in life. The same way we crave for food to nourish our bodies it’s the same way we crave a purpose to nourish our life. So how do you find out what you are “craving”?

There is a difference between “what you like to do” and “what your good at”.We live in a big world with some many opportunities available so we have to go through the process of elimination of what we like to do and what we are good at. Sometimes when we like to do something, we don’t necessarily see it as something we see ourselves doing for the rest of our lives. Usually something we like to do is a hobby or “side hustle” as some would say. When you are good at something, it’s a natural born gift that has been instilled in you. It’s what make you, you. Just like we have foods we like to eat and we have foods we love to eat.

Once you found a sense of direction of the path you would like to go on, it’s time to explore. Just like food, once you see that your good at cooking something, you want to find different recipes for that specific kind of food. The same as finding our purpose. Once we have a sense of what we want to do with our lives, it’s time to branch out and explore. If you have a personality quality about you that your good at such a being a good listener or great at giving advice, take into consideration of being a counselor or research different mentoring programs working with the youth. If you have a gift of arts and crafts, consider branding yourself and opening up your own business and selling the items you make. 

The road is not easy and you may loose yourself in the process of finding your purpose so don’t loose sight of what you know you are meant to do. You may get discouraged and feel like it’s not worth it but through every struggle comes glory. You may not like all the food you eat, but just because you had one bad dish, doesn’t mean you going to stop eating.

Bon Appetite!

You will look at a soda can differently! [Quick Post]

You will look at a soda can differently! [Quick Post]

So I thought this was neat! I was looking at a video on Facebook called “10 things we are eating wrong” recently. I showed this to my mother and she asked me, “Do you know what the tabs on soda cans are for?” I said, “um, to open it?” she then grab a soda can, turned the tab around and then inserted a straw! She said it’s too keep the straw in place! I felt so dumb to not even think of that. I don’t know if I am late or not or of this is real reason for the tabs being there but I thought it was pretty neat idea. So for those people who don’t like to drink directly from a can (like me) there’s no more bobbing and weaving to get to the straw, just turn the tab around and it stays in place!


Is Love Lost?: This Generation

Is Love Lost?: This Generation

As I was cleaning up my room, I found this article I wrote about 7 years ago and I thought it would be nice to share it with you all.


We all know love has various different meanings there is no definite definition of it. Some may say it’s when you feel strongly about another person, or someone you can’t live without. Why are there so many different ways to describe  love? It all comes down to ones background and the way one is brought up. If one comes from a broken home, love would be hard for them to understand because it has never been shown. For example, back in the grandma and grandpa days, love was understood.  Love was something that was unconditional and a strong bond between two people that become one – something everlasting. Love was respect. And if you kept all those things in mind, you’ll easily find a husband or a wife. But like they say, times change. Love is now misconstructed with lust. Today, young boys are looking for something to do for that night whether than looking for a wife. Young girls are loosing their self respect instead of gaining it. Love today is taken a game rather than a true emotion. Also, the number of teenage pregnancy is dramatically increasing. There are more “baby daddy’s” and “baby mommas” than there are fiancés, wives or husbands. Then again, look at the society we live in. Men get praised for having more than one sexual female partner while women get slapped with the label “hoe”. Also, the music today plays a role in this generation and the way love is interpreted. There is more, “get you in bed” songs than the feel good fall in love songs. There is no Marvin Gaye’s,  Luther Vandross or Earth, Wind and Fire. Once again, the misconstruction of love and lust. So what else is a young brother growing up is suppose to understand what the true meaning of love is? Most importantly, respect plays a big role in love. Young girls today are trying to find love in all the wrong places, mainly in the bedroom. Respect is earn by not laying on your back, but standing on your won two feet and if a guy doesn’t  respect you, he’s not going to love you. All of this had dawned on me when I was getting my hair done and at the beauty salon and my hairdresser, who’s in her late 60’s, told me about how she felt bad for us young girls today because it would be hard for one to find a husband. Now why would she say such a thing? Because in her days love was understood, women were respected and people took love as true emotion, whether than a game. So in our generation, is love really lost? Now don’t get me wrong, we are not in a “love recession” but the morals and values in our generation is declining and needs to be restored. It’s sad, but true and its reality and its happening. And it’s only up to the young girls and boys in our generation today to step up and break the cycle for generations to come.

Has times really changed?

“Is Marriage A Trend?”: Spoken Word by EccentricJay

“Is Marriage A Trend?”: Spoken Word by EccentricJay


I feel..I feel deep to fulfill this need,

You see I have this dead line im trying to beat
At 26 im baby and man free
I laugh because I feel the need to obtain this popular accessory

I mean being wifey and a mother seems to be the trending thing to me

On a deserted island with less than 10 people to join me
The last of a dieing breed it seems to me

The funny thing is I was supposed to be apart of this trending thing you see
Growing up I was destined to be the wild child, or atleast that what was spoke to me

Church folks are the best paparrazi

What happened to Love thy neighbor as thy self??

Scripture right?

Yea that’s what I thought

But the sad thing is some of them are so green on the inside

Such an ugly sickness

But be careful what you speak to others

I was destined to be the “wild’ one
I should had atleast 3 kids by now
But the ones who spoke the words are reaping the words of their tounge

You see this trending thing that’s going on in our society
The whole baby mama, wifey epidemic can only do one thing
And that’s miss me.

– EccentricJay

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

Our Valentines Day Photo Contest winners are Johnathan and Dominque Carter-Brintley  from Orlando, FL.! I’ve came across a few photos of couples on Valentines Day, but the photo of this couple is too adorable to past up. It shows what love should be – fun! As a couple, it’s important to have fun with each other and just enjoy every moment together to have memories to look back on. This contest is not the only congrats this couple is due – they are expecting their first child! and she truly is glowing!

So congrats to the Brintley’s for winning the first Be.U Valentines Day Photo Contest as well as your little bundle of joy on the way!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!


Be. U will be having a Valentines Day Photo Contest! We all know that our social media will be overloaded with so many Valentines Day pictures. Couples will be posting their date night pictures, ladies will show off their outfits and gifts. So, I want to choose the BEST Valentines Day picture and the winning picture will be posted on the blog. I am looking for the most creative Valentines Day photo. For those who are single, don’t worry, you’re not excluded – you can post a photo as well! Here’s what you gotta do:

First follow the blog on instagram, @be_u_blog and tag your photo and use the hashtag #valentinesdaycontest2014. Also, please re-frame from posting anything inappropriate such as nudity, nobody wants to see that. (just being honest) with that being said, have fun!

Be.U is Back! [2014]

Be.U is Back! [2014]


After months, days and years of procrastination and dragging my feet, Be.U is back! I want to first and foremost thank those who motivated me to keep my blog going and just overall the overwhelming positive feedback and support. Since it has been so long and those who may have been wondering, “What happen?” I guess it’s only right to at least keep a long story short and explain the reason for the long hiatus…

When I first started Be.U, I really didn’t have a set direction of what I wanted to blog about, the audience I wanted to target, the overall message and purpose. All I knew was that I wanted to blog and be heard. By me not knowing what I wanted to do, I decided to reach out to my friends and to those who visited my page on what exactly they would like to see on my blog. I received so many different ideas that it was overwhelming and by me not knowing exactly what I wanted to do to begin with, I ended up trying to please everybody and just got completely lost and my mind went blank. So, I decided to pull the plug.

During my hiatus, I had a lot of time to think about my blog and not only that, some self reflection. I just couldn’t live with the fact that I started something, and didn’t finish it. I couldn’t just walk away from something that I created and not give it the chance to flourish and grow into a success. It’s nerve racking to live with “what-if” so why not go for it? Oh yea, that’s right I went through a moment that most people have gone through once in their life – self doubt. I doubted myself from the start of the blog all the way till the end. For those who do that, it’s natural. But I realized it will hold you back from a lot of things. If you doubt your dreams, how will expect anyone else to believe in them?

With that being said, IAM BACK. What you will see on the new Be.U is people doing their thing. Such as those who are doing something positive, striving for success and achieve their goals or dreams. There will be music, fashion and writing that will be showcased, your views as well as my views on various topics, tips, advice and things that people go through on the daily basis. The main thing is here is positivity; the world is already negative enough, so let’s highlight the positive. So, I hope you all enjoy, thank you and don’t forget to always Be.U!

–       Q. T’Lena