Is Love Lost?: This Generation

Is Love Lost?: This Generation

As I was cleaning up my room, I found this article I wrote about 7 years ago and I thought it would be nice to share it with you all.

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We all know love has various different meanings there is no definite definition of it. Some may say it’s when you feel strongly about another person, or someone you can’t live without. Why are there so many different ways to describe  love? It all comes down to ones background and the way one is brought up. If one comes from a broken home, love would be hard for them to understand because it has never been shown. For example, back in the grandma and grandpa days, love was understood.  Love was something that was unconditional and a strong bond between two people that become one – something everlasting. Love was respect. And if you kept all those things in mind, you’ll easily find a husband or a wife. But like they say, times change. Love is now misconstructed with lust. Today, young boys are looking for something to do for that night whether than looking for a wife. Young girls are loosing their self respect instead of gaining it. Love today is taken a game rather than a true emotion. Also, the number of teenage pregnancy is dramatically increasing. There are more “baby daddy’s” and “baby mommas” than there are fiancés, wives or husbands. Then again, look at the society we live in. Men get praised for having more than one sexual female partner while women get slapped with the label “hoe”. Also, the music today plays a role in this generation and the way love is interpreted. There is more, “get you in bed” songs than the feel good fall in love songs. There is no Marvin Gaye’s,  Luther Vandross or Earth, Wind and Fire. Once again, the misconstruction of love and lust. So what else is a young brother growing up is suppose to understand what the true meaning of love is? Most importantly, respect plays a big role in love. Young girls today are trying to find love in all the wrong places, mainly in the bedroom. Respect is earn by not laying on your back, but standing on your won two feet and if a guy doesn’t  respect you, he’s not going to love you. All of this had dawned on me when I was getting my hair done and at the beauty salon and my hairdresser, who’s in her late 60’s, told me about how she felt bad for us young girls today because it would be hard for one to find a husband. Now why would she say such a thing? Because in her days love was understood, women were respected and people took love as true emotion, whether than a game. So in our generation, is love really lost? Now don’t get me wrong, we are not in a “love recession” but the morals and values in our generation is declining and needs to be restored. It’s sad, but true and its reality and its happening. And it’s only up to the young girls and boys in our generation today to step up and break the cycle for generations to come.

Has times really changed?

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

And The Winner Is……..[Valentines Day Photo Contest]

Our Valentines Day Photo Contest winners are Johnathan and Dominque Carter-Brintley  from Orlando, FL.! I’ve came across a few photos of couples on Valentines Day, but the photo of this couple is too adorable to past up. It shows what love should be – fun! As a couple, it’s important to have fun with each other and just enjoy every moment together to have memories to look back on. This contest is not the only congrats this couple is due – they are expecting their first child! and she truly is glowing!

So congrats to the Brintley’s for winning the first Be.U Valentines Day Photo Contest as well as your little bundle of joy on the way!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!

Valentines Day Photo Contest!

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Be. U will be having a Valentines Day Photo Contest! We all know that our social media will be overloaded with so many Valentines Day pictures. Couples will be posting their date night pictures, ladies will show off their outfits and gifts. So, I want to choose the BEST Valentines Day picture and the winning picture will be posted on the blog. I am looking for the most creative Valentines Day photo. For those who are single, don’t worry, you’re not excluded – you can post a photo as well! Here’s what you gotta do:

First follow the blog on instagram, @be_u_blog and tag your photo and use the hashtag #valentinesdaycontest2014. Also, please re-frame from posting anything inappropriate such as nudity, nobody wants to see that. (just being honest) with that being said, have fun!

Set The Mood Right This Valentines Day!

Set The Mood Right This Valentines Day!

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With Valentines Day just days away, some may be in a panic in trying to plan the perfect day or finding the right gift for your sweetheart, that say’s “I love you”. Here are a couple of things that may help you make this day perfect for you and your valentine:

Tight Budget:

for your man: It’s true what they say, “A way to a mans heart is through his stomach”. A man loves a home cooked meal, especially from his girlfriend/wife. Find out what his favorite meal(s) are and start cooking! This to a man is more valuable than a gift. If you aren’t married, this well defiantly score you a lot of points. He will appreciate the time, effort and love you put into make him a great dinner.

for your girl: Of course, jewelry and nice things will always win a girl’s heart, but it’s the little things that matters the most. Therefore, make a basket filled up of her favorite things (If you’re not that crafty, find a female friend, relative or your mother to help you out). This will show that you actually listen and pay attention to the things she says.

Music:

Music can either make the mood right or totally wrong! here are some good songs that can set the mood just right.

for your man:

  1. Aaliyah- At Your Best
  2. Beyoncé- 1+1
  3. Faith Evans- Never Gonna Let You go
  4. Xscape – Am I Dreamin’
  5. Alicia Keys- That’s When I Knew
  6. Nivea- Complicated
  7. Destiny Child- Cater 2 U
  8. SWV- Rain
  9. Beyoncé- Dangerously In Love
  10. Lauren Hill- Sweetest Thing

for your girl:

  1. Trey Songz – One Love
  2. Joe-I Wanna Know
  3. 112- Cupid
  4. Avant- Read Your Mind
  5. Jamie Foxx- Heaven
  6. Babyface – Everytime I Close My Eyes
  7. Miguel- Adorn
  8. Tyrese- Lately
  9. Robin Thicke- Lost Without You
  10. Dru Hill – Beauty

Chocolates:

It’s not Valentines Day without chocolate! This best kind of chocolate to get is Godiva, Ghirardelli or Russell Stoven. Godiva is a very rich and smooth chocolate that literally melts in your mouth. Ghirardelli is also very rich and their chocolate’s have delicious varieties in their chocolate fillings. Godiva may run on the expensive side, but it’s worth the money. If don’t want to spend too much on chocolate, Hersey’s always does the trick.

Places To Go:

If you’re a more outgoing and love the outdoors, try a nice boat ride, miniature golf or a nice walk around the park. If you’re a more laid back couple, just do a simple dinner and a movie. If you don’t feel like going out, get creative and set up the bedroom or the living room nice to give it a nice restaurant feel. This way, it’s a bit more intimate and private.

Sugar, Spice and Everything Nice!:

Of course, it’s not Valentines Day without the perfect nightcap. Guys, if you really want to win your lady over, run a nice bubble bath for her after dinner or feel free to join her. Set nice scented candles are the tub and all around the bathroom. Ladies, our men work hard and a nice massage would be perfect for him. Also, one thing to always remember, wrap it up!

Happy Valentines Day from Be.U!

Women Aren’t Complicated, Just Misunderstood…

Women Aren’t Complicated, Just Misunderstood…

Complicated (adj.) 1. consisting of parts intricately combined 2. difficult to analyze or explain.

Sentence : ” Some men think that  most women are complicated.”

As human beings, we’re broken down into different species – men and women. Within each species, there are things that are instilled within each to differentiate them into their own. This is called nature. Our nature affects how we interact others, how we handle situations, and the way we live on the day-to-day basics. It also affects our mental, physical and emotional state. It is within a women’s nature to nurture, care deeply for others and to be more in tune with their emotions. For men, it is within their nature to be strong, tough and to be able to provide for the ones whom he cares for. Unlike women, men are not always likely to respond to situations solely off of their emotions because it’s not within their nature  to do so, so their initial response is to react mentally. In a relationship between these two species, this is where conflict may occur.

A man will see a woman as “complicated” due to his nature to not fully comprehend the complexity of a women and her nature. Therefore, the main contribution to the confusion is a man lacking the understanding on how to respond. What makes up the complexity of a woman is her ability of knowing things, which is called a woman’s intuition. This intuition is like a sixth sense of some sort and gives women the ability to sense if something is right or wrong. This intuition could also be a  sense of protection because woman are more vulnerable to be hurt or fooled because of their loving and caring nature. Since some men may not understand this, some women may be seen as “crazy” in a mans perspective, when in reality, it’s a woman’s source of protection.  Another reason why some men may also feel that women are complicated, is the fact that some women cannot express want they really want from a man. Generally speaking, every woman wants a sense of security, love, trust and happiness from a man. The main question a man needs to ask himself is, “Can I provide this for her?” If so, her desires are not hard to be met.

Overall, the key to understanding women and removing the complications that may come with being in a relationship, lays in a mans hands. A man has to have the willingness and urge for wanting to gain understanding. He also has to have an open mind with wanting to expand his knowledge on a woman’s world and her views of the world from her mental, physical and emotional stand point. For a man who doesn’t take this approach, may find himself confused and to believe that the woman has the issue. In some cases, this may be true. However, this will lead a man to think that women are complicated, when in actually, just misunderstood.