We are all placed on this earth of a reason..but what is that reason? Some people struggle with what their reason is and what is their purpose in life. Along the way to discovery, we may sometimes compare our lives to other people and think we are suppose to be where they are, living how they’re living, and doing what they’re are doing. As hard of a pill it may seem to swallow, we are not all meant to go down the same path. We have to discover our own destiny. Our own story. Our own purpose. So we pack up our motivation, strength and determination in a backpack and travel on down the road. Destination – finding your purpose. But once, we think we reached our destination, how do we know that this where we are suppose to be? How do figure our whether this truly is our purpose in life? It’s a sense of fulfillment. The same fullness and sanctification you feel after a big Thanksgiving dinner. The fullness and satisfaction you feel after haven’t ate all day, and finally getting a full meal. That’s when we are have found our purpose in life. The same way we crave for food to nourish our bodies it’s the same way we crave a purpose to nourish our life. So how do you find out what you are “craving”?
There is a difference between “what you like to do” and “what your good at”.We live in a big world with some many opportunities available so we have to go through the process of elimination of what we like to do and what we are good at. Sometimes when we like to do something, we don’t necessarily see it as something we see ourselves doing for the rest of our lives. Usually something we like to do is a hobby or “side hustle” as some would say. When you are good at something, it’s a natural born gift that has been instilled in you. It’s what make you, you. Just like we have foods we like to eat and we have foods we love to eat.
Once you found a sense of direction of the path you would like to go on, it’s time to explore. Just like food, once you see that your good at cooking something, you want to find different recipes for that specific kind of food. The same as finding our purpose. Once we have a sense of what we want to do with our lives, it’s time to branch out and explore. If you have a personality quality about you that your good at such a being a good listener or great at giving advice, take into consideration of being a counselor or research different mentoring programs working with the youth. If you have a gift of arts and crafts, consider branding yourself and opening up your own business and selling the items you make.
The road is not easy and you may loose yourself in the process of finding your purpose so don’t loose sight of what you know you are meant to do. You may get discouraged and feel like it’s not worth it but through every struggle comes glory. You may not like all the food you eat, but just because you had one bad dish, doesn’t mean you going to stop eating.
After months, days and years of procrastination and dragging my feet, Be.U is back! I want to first and foremost thank those who motivated me to keep my blog going and just overall the overwhelming positive feedback and support. Since it has been so long and those who may have been wondering, “What happen?” I guess it’s only right to at least keep a long story short and explain the reason for the long hiatus…
When I first started Be.U, I really didn’t have a set direction of what I wanted to blog about, the audience I wanted to target, the overall message and purpose. All I knew was that I wanted to blog and be heard. By me not knowing what I wanted to do, I decided to reach out to my friends and to those who visited my page on what exactly they would like to see on my blog. I received so many different ideas that it was overwhelming and by me not knowing exactly what I wanted to do to begin with, I ended up trying to please everybody and just got completely lost and my mind went blank. So, I decided to pull the plug.
During my hiatus, I had a lot of time to think about my blog and not only that, some self reflection. I just couldn’t live with the fact that I started something, and didn’t finish it. I couldn’t just walk away from something that I created and not give it the chance to flourish and grow into a success. It’s nerve racking to live with “what-if” so why not go for it? Oh yea, that’s right I went through a moment that most people have gone through once in their life – self doubt. I doubted myself from the start of the blog all the way till the end. For those who do that, it’s natural. But I realized it will hold you back from a lot of things. If you doubt your dreams, how will expect anyone else to believe in them?
With that being said, IAM BACK. What you will see on the new Be.U is people doing their thing. Such as those who are doing something positive, striving for success and achieve their goals or dreams. There will be music, fashion and writing that will be showcased, your views as well as my views on various topics, tips, advice and things that people go through on the daily basis. The main thing is here is positivity; the world is already negative enough, so let’s highlight the positive. So, I hope you all enjoy, thank you and don’t forget to always Be.U!
– Q. T’Lena
Whenever tragic events happens that involves violence from our youth, the media automatically links the influence of the act to video games. The tragic mass shooting that occurred in Aurora, Colorado on July 20, 2012, where a gunman opened fire in a crowed movie theater at a midnight showing of The Dark Knight, the gunman told officials, “He felt like he was in a video game” The statement that the gunman made, I could see why it ignited the fuel for the media to run with and make a correlation with videos games to the event that just occurred. I understood then, but witnessing it for myself, I completely understand now.
I was in the grocery store one day, waiting to be checked out and a mother and her daughter stood in front of me in line.Her daughter looked to be at least 4 or 5 years old, very hyper and energetic as any child would be, running up and down and jumping everywhere. The mother and the cashier started a conversation on how cute the little girl was and how she was so hyper. “I don’t know where she gets this from!” said the mother. Both the mother and the cashier shared a friendly laugh. Then the little girl ran up to her mother and said she wanted play a video game when she gets home. I didn’t quite catch what video game she said, but the guy that was bagging her groceries understood, and sparked up a conversation with the mother about the game. The mother told the guy that it’s a video game her daughter and her older brother play together and the guy told the mother how he just purchased the game himself. He then went on and explained on how quite scary and violent it is. The mother then turned to her daughter and said, “Do you like scary stuff?”, the little girl nodded her head “Yes” and said, “I like guns”. The mother and the cashier looked at each and the mother laughed shyly and told her daughter, “Don’t say that”. The little girl then proceeded to form her hand into a gun and pointed at her mother and said, “Bang, bang Mommy!” and the mother grabbed her hand and said “Don’t do that!” and looked and the cashier and shyly laughed again. The little girl said again, “I like guns!” and the second time she said it louder. The only thing the cashier could do was laugh, so could I, but in shocked way. The mother and her daughter left the store and it was my turn to check out. The cashier didn’t know how to make out of it. As it was my turn to check out, the cashier and the guy that was bagging her groceries knew I was aware of what just occurred. All three of us looked dumb founded and didn’t know whether to laugh or just brush it off. All the guy could say was, “That was…. interesting”.
Just like any movie or television show, all video games have ratings. “E” stands for everyone 6 years and older, “T” is for teenagers 13 years or older, “MA” is for mature audiences 17 years or older and “A” for adults only 18 years and older. So the question is, should there be stricter polices on the purchase of video games? Or should parents take more precautions on what their children are exposed to? Some children cannot always grasp the concept of reality and what is fantasy, so as they get older, their not just games to them anymore. They want to experience and try to see what it would feel like, this would cause them to act upon such violent crimes amongst others. Therefore, in order to stop the violence, we have to stop exposing them to such.
Its time to bring out the grills, its Super Bowl time! This year, the Baltimore Ravens and the San Francisco 49ers will go head to head in becoming the Super Bowl XLVII champions. The two teams have played a very good game this season which will make for a very good game. What’s very interesting about this game, is that the coaches for each team are brothers, John and Jim Harbaugh (talk about sibling rivalry) But, however the game goes, congratulations goes to both teams who played well and worked hard to make it this far. Who do you think will win?
The game will be aired at 6:30 (ET) and you can also watch it live at www.CBSSports.com
So I am pretty sure that everyone in world is aware of Chris Brown and Frank Oceans’ little “scuffle” that recently took place [shocking]. This is not the only altercation that Brown and Frank have been involved in. These two have been at it since the beginning of Oceans career from arguing back and forth via Twitter, why? Who knows. But what we do know is that this is nothing but high school-my-lyrics-are-better-than-yours-male-echo drama. You would think that they would have better things to do with their time beside going back and forth with one another on Twitter and fighting over a parking space. Yes, a parking space. The physical altercation took place outside of a recording studio, assuming the two pulled up at the same time, words were exchanged and then blows were thrown. I would have loved to know exactly what was said before they fought. In addition, I feel like there is more brewing between these two and there is a deeper meaning behind their dislike for one another. Either way it goes, it’s just plain out ridiculous and both need a bit more of maturity under their belt. I am more of a fan for Frank Ocean for more than I am for Chris Brown due to the fact that Franks’ lyrics have more depth, in contrast to Chris which are just written to the beat. So if the beef is between their song written skills? Hands down, Frank Ocean has won that fight. In other words, I really hope these two find a common ground and agree to disagree before it gets out of hand.
On a more serious matter, Rick Ross aka “Mr. Rozay”, was allegedly a target of a drive- by shooting on Las Olas Boulevard in Fresno, CA. Luckily, Ross as well as his girlfriend who was with him at the time of the incident, walked away shaken, but no serious injuries was done. If this situation sounds familiar, you are right. It happened years ago (in California as well) to a well-known rapper by the name of Christopher “Biggie Smalls” Wallace. He was shot and killed in a drive-by shooting at a stop light leaving a party at a local club. Unfortunately, this case still reminds unsolved and his death still leave sadness to those who grow up listening to his music as well as to those in the music industry. It’s a freighting thought how the two are similar to each other, but one was spared a chance to change. Hopefully, this is a wake up called for Mr. Rozay.
This rap game has to change.
Today, we celebrate the life of a great leader and a great man, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Dr. King was born on January 15, 1929 in Atlanta, Georgia but was later shot and killed on April 4, 1968. He was the son of Alberta Williams King and Martin Luther King, Sr..Dr.Martin Luther King Jr. was the leader of the African-American Civil Rights Movement who were fighting for the blacks to have equal rights. Dr. King and his team held marches from Selma to Alabama, fighting the good fight for respect, freedom and the rights of his people. The NAACP known leaders of today, Jessie Jackson and Rev. Al Sharpton, were also by his side during this movement. Sadly, the marches did not get a good response from the white communities and the marches usually ended up very violently. On March 7, 1965, known as “Bloody Sunday”, was their first march where 600 civil rights leaders and marchers were beaten, sprayed with water hoes and tear gassed by police and some were killed – but that didn’t stop them. Even when Dr. King was arrested, he didn’t lose his faith and he didn’t give up. They continued their marches with hope that things would change. That was his mission – change. The change that whites and blacks could come together and be one and not to be seen as two different races. The change that blacks would start being treated as human beings and not dogs. The change that the senseless killings of his people would end. The change for no more segregation. The change for equal rights. Dr. King is also known for his moving speech on August 28, 1983, called ,“I Have a Dream”, which still lives on to this day and miraculously, his dreams have came true. Today, there’s no more segregation, less hatred, more respect and freedom. There’s no more “white’s only” signs outside of dinners, schools are no longer segregated and most importantly we have the right to vote. All because of one man, who fought and died for change.
“If you can’t fly, then run
If you can’t run, then walk
If you can’t walk, then crawl
but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward”
-Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Justin Timberlake is bringing in the new year right. With finding a new love, his wife Jessica Biel, he’s decided to return back to his first love, his music. After a long hiatus, he had to come hard and come big, so he collaborated with Jay-Z for a smash hit. His lasts single is called “Suit and Tie” and well, it has J.T written all over it. This track is from his upcoming album, “The 20/20 Experience” which is due to drop sometime this year. He is defiantly bringing sexy back in 2013. Listen for yourself.