When I first decided that I wanted to go viral, I brainstormed a few ideas of exactly want I wanted to do, and want substance I wanted the site to have. At first, I wanted to do a website for young girls and there a few reasons why I was going to go with this particular idea. One, I feel that as young girls in today’s society, we go through a lot. We face self esteem issues, boys, hormones, body image and lastly there are the labels on what we should be and what we shouldn’t be. When it comes to body image, there are so many screwed definitions on what exactly beauty really is and that’s skinny, flat stomach, long hair, roundness from behind and a nice rack. But we all know, not every one looks this way, so if your not that, your not considered into societies “beautiful”. Some women even take it so far as to go and receive plastic surgery to “fit” into what should be. I am personally against plastic surgery, unless it’s for health reasons. But if want to get a procedure to just “fit” into the beautiful box that society has made, well, that’s your choice. I feel that we all made in different shapes and sizes for different reasons, if we were all made into look like Barbie dolls, we will end up like them – lifeless, plastic and boring with the same fake smiles. Now me, I am a petite girl, and I am proud of it. Some people tell me “Oh, you need to eat”, No. The only thing I need to do is stay black and die. Secondly, It just baffles me that as women and young girls, not only are we battling everyday life, we are battling with one another. Even as women of color, we should be uplifting each other, considering the fact that we go through enough with being the most popular race to be stereotyped anyway, why do we need to break each other down? Why are we battling each other with the “who has the most expensive weave in their hair” or “who’s badder” than the other. We even fight each if we have the same outfit on! There is nothing wrong with complimenting each other, give props where props is due.
Also, there’s these “twerkin” videos. I understand you want to show of your talents, but that just goes back to the saying of “lady in streets, freak in the sheets”. What you know how to do, should be between you and your man. You may think that you are showing of your “talents”, but what you are really doing is showing off your lack of self respect (ouch, sorry). What some fail to realize is that what you put out there on the internet, especially videos, it’s out there for good. There is no getting them back. You may not think about it now, but what about when you get older and you need a job. Since the internet has become so popular today, a lot of employers look you up. And guess what they will see when they type in your name? That’s right.
If you want more respect, you have to carry yourself in such matter. Little do we realize, we do have little girls growing up looking up to us. We have to strive to be the next Michelle Obama instead of the next Nicki Minaj or the best video vixen. You have to start gaining more self respect for ourselves and maybe our Black men will start respecting us just a little more. We can’t walk around and call ourselves and our girlfriends “bitches” and “hoes”, but when a man does it, we want to cut’em. No, If you advertise it, don’t get mad at the response.